Who is there for you 24/7, 365 days a year?
Who knows you better than anyone else?
Who hears the whispers of your yearning heart?
Who knows your faults, disappointments, setbacks, resentments, jealousies, frustrations and losses?
For many of us, we would like it to be our partners, our parents or our besties. But in reality, it is ourselves. It is YOU.
You are the only one that you can fully rely on throughout your life. When I point this out to my clients, it can be a real aha moment.
Yet even when we know this is our truth, we may still continue to beat ourselves up and to be our own worst enemy. You know that little voice inside your head that says you are dumb, hopeless, worthless, unlovable, fat, ugly, stupid, lazy, irresponsible, a liar, a cheat……. Can you imagine if we spoke to our loved ones and friends like this? Do you think they would stick around? I don’t think so?
And yet, we continue to berate ourselves – often on an unconscious level – to this degree, all day, everyday. We think around 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day and more than half of these are repeated self-criticisms.
It is time to change this.
It is time to practice ahimsa – loving kindness. This is one of the first principles we learn in yoga. Ahimsa to ourselves and to everyone and everything around us.
Let’s learn to become our own very best friend.
Let’s learn to treat ourselves as we treat our friends and loved ones.
A really simple practice that I teach to my yoga students is palming. First of all, make sure you are seated in a comfortable position. Feel your body fully supported, relax the neck and shoulders and take 3 long slow breaths, really focusing on your out breath.
Now, think of something in your life that you may be struggling with. It could be anything – problems at work, with your partner or children, feeling unwell, not sleeping……..And take a moment now, to feel where your body hurts the most – it may be your tummy, neck, shoulders….wherever. If nothing comes up for you, simply bring your awareness to the centre of your chest.
Rub the palms of your hands together to generate heat. And gently place your hands over the area of your body that you are drawn to. Do this with conscious intention. Place your hands in such a way, as if you are holding a newborn baby or a puppy…..lightly and with loving kindness. Feel the warmth from your hands penetrating through your clothing or skin, and imagine that part of your body softening and melting.
This may take you a few seconds or a few minutes. It doesn’t matter. The whole purpose of this practice is to connect to yourself, to be kind to yourself, and to support yourself.
If you are new to this practice, I recommend doing it at least once a day, until it becomes second nature to you.
Let’s learn to become our own best friend first. To be kind… to be loving… to be compassionate… towards YOU.
I’d love to hear from you. Please share in the comments below your experience of your own, healing hands.
With love and blessings,